Emma Heming Willis is highlighting the importance of caregivers.
Following news that Gene Hackmanpassed away one week after his wife and caregiver Betsy Arakawa died of hantavirus pulmonary syndrome, Bruce Willis’ wife addressed the realities of being an aide.
“This is not something I would normally comment on, but I do really believe that there is some learning in this story,” Emma said of Gene and Betsy’s deaths in a March 10 Instagram video. “It’s just made me think of this broader story, and that is that caregivers need care too and that they are vital.”
“It is so important that we show up for them so that they can continue to show up for their person,” she continued. “I think that there’s this common misconception that, like caregivers, they got it figured out, they got it covered. They’re good. I don’t subscribe to that.”
Instead, the 46-year-old—whose husband of 15 years has been battling frontotemporal dementia—emphasized that those who are caring for a loved one also need support “so that they can continue to show up for their person.”
Emma’s comments come as new information has emerged about Gene and Betsy’s deaths.
Over one week after the couple’s bodies were discovered in their New Mexico home, Santa Fe Chief Medical Examiner Heather Jarrell shared at a March 7 press conference that the Unforgiven actor was “in an advanced state of Alzheimer’s” disease at the time.
In fact, the officials added that Gene, whose cause of death was ruled as hypertensive and atherosclerotic cardiovascular disease, may not have been “aware” that Betsy “was deceased.”
Following their deaths, the couple’s friend Tim Allin admitted to The New York Times that Gene, 95, would’ve died “long ago” without Betsy, 65, by his side. He added, “She was very protective of him.”
Like Betsy, Emma—who shares daughters Mabel, 12, and Evelyn, 10, with Bruce—has had to navigate her husband’s degenerative diagnosis. And while she is grateful to be his support, she also shared the importance of providing herself space to reflect on her feelings.
“I give myself 30 minutes to sit in the ‘why him, why us,’ to feel the anger and grief,” Emma wrote on Instagram in December. “Then I shake it off and return to what is. And what is… is unconditional love. I feel blessed to know it, and it’s because of him. I’d do it all over again and again in a heartbeat.”
Luckily, Bruce, 69, also has an expansive network of support, including his ex-wife Demi Moore and their daughters Rumer Willis, 36, Scout Willis, 33, and Tallulah Willis, 30.
The Substance actress shared insight into their family’s bond amid her ex-husband’s ongoing health battle, including visiting him weekly.
“We will always be a family, just in a different form,” Demi explained to Variety in February. “For me, there was never a question. I show up because that’s what you do for the people you love.”
“I hope it’s encouraging for others to see that there’s a different way to do things,” she added. “There is life after divorce. There is a way to co-parent with love.”
Now, read on to see more of Bruce’s blended family.
Bruce Willis and Demi Moore
Up-and-coming movie stars Bruce Willis and Demi Moore met at the August 1987 premiere of the cop comedy Stakeout—which, neither was in, but Demi was there to support one of the film’s stars, her ex-fiancé Emilio Estevez.
Bruce was newly single and Demi, who was married to Freddy Moore from 1981 to 1985, was ready to mingle.
“We went all in, right away,” the Ghost star wrote in her 2019 memoir Inside Out, “talking about how badly we both wanted to have kids, our own family.”
Just a few months after meeting, they were in Las Vegas to catch a boxing match when they eloped, tying the knot at the Golden Nugget hotel on Nov. 21, 1987. A month later, they threw a bigger wedding, with Little Richard officiating their vows.
While Demi later detailed in her book just how precarious their marriage was at times (not least when Bruce mentioned in 1990 that he wasn’t sure he wanted to be married at all), they were outwardly a Hollywood golden couple right up until they announced in 1998 that they were separating.
But they remained a family unit.
“I still love Demi. We’re very close,” Bruce told Rolling Stone in 2000. “We have three children whom we will continue to raise together, and we’re probably as close now as we ever were. We realize we have a lifelong commitment to our kids. Our friendship continues.”
Rumer Willis
Demi has said she and Bruce started trying to have a child even before their whirlwind wedding.
And it’s conceivable that they were successful, because daughter Rumer Glenn Willis was born Aug. 16, 1988, in Paducah, Ky., where her dad was filming In Country.
Home movies of Rumer’s birth were apparently the main attraction when her parents entertained for the next few years.
“Bruce never left me in the entire 15 hours of labor,” Demi told Vanity Fair in 1991, “except to go to the bathroom once.”
Rumer was 9 when her mom and dad split up and she remains impressed to this day at their co-parenting skills, telling People in October 2024, “We never had to split family vacations or Christmases or birthdays.”
As she told Larry King in 2015, “They always made an effort to do all of the family events still together and made such an effort to still have our family be as one unit, as opposed to two separate things, which I think really made an impact.”
Louetta Thomas Willis
Rumer welcomed daughter Louetta Isley Thomas Willis with musician Derek Richard Thomas on April 18, 2022.
The My Divorce Party actress has explained that her baby’s names are a hybrid of her dad’s favorite singers, Louie Armstrong, Etta James and the Isley Brothers.
“She’s just a pure joy,” happy grandmother Demi told E! News in January 2024. “It really is all the clichés. You get all the fun and joy, and you get to go to bed early and have a good night’s sleep.”
Rumer and Derek split up in August 2024, but she tipped her hat to her mom and dad for providing an “unbelievable example” of what co-parenting could look like.
“Derek’s my best friend, and that has not changed,” Rumer told People in October 2024. “We have found an amazing way to keep our friendship and our loving co-parenting relationship. And I think both of us are so happy that we can have that for ourselves as well as for Lou.”
Scout Willis
Scout LaRue Willis was born July 20, 1991, in Sun Valley, Idaho, her parents having decided to spend their kids’ formative years away from Hollywood.
Not that they didn’t do glitz and glam.
Demi was pregnant with her second daughter when she famously posed nude for the August 1991 cover of Vanity Fair, a maternity shoot that has been endlessly imitated.
“Pregnancy agrees with me,” she told the magazine. “I feel comfortable.”
While she dabbled in acting in a few of her parents’ films as a kid, Scout was geared more toward photography and music, the Brown University grad releasing her self-titled debut album in 2022.
But she loves a good movie, and months before Demi won a Golden Globe for The Substance, Scout raved about her mom’s performance in the darkly funny body horror film.
“I thought, ‘Wow, this woman is who I look up to,’ and she’s so unbelievably beautiful, so unbelievably talented and her willingness to show up in that space and be 100 percent herself,” Scout told Us Weekly in November 2024. “It’s a service to share that and knowing how many people she touched, she was willing to be that courageous.”
Tallulah Willis
Tallulah Belle Willis was born Feb. 3, 1994, in Hailey, Idaho.
“I’ve heard all kinds of explanations, that God is paying me back for something,” Bruce told Rolling Stone in 2000, acknowledging that some thought it ironic the action star was a girl dad. “But I’ll tell you, I would have three more daughters tomorrow. They’re great.”
The Willis-Moore household relocated from Idaho to L.A. when Tallulah was in third grade, meaning she got a bit more of a Hollywood upbringing than her sisters—and it wasn’t great.
The founder of the clothing line Wyllis has candidly discussed getting sober at 20, entering treatment for depression at 25 and then battling anorexia. She explained in a 2023 Vogue essay that medication she was prescribed for ADHD, while helpful, was also an appetite-suppressant, intensifying her fixation on her weight.
Another trip to treatment after her father started to decline—the family went public with Bruce’s aphasia diagnosis in March 2022—included Tallulah being diagnosed with borderline personality disorder.
“Recovery is probably lifelong,” she wrote in Vogue, “but I now have the tools to be present in all facets of my life, and especially in my relationship with my dad.”
Tallulah announced her engagement to musician boyfriend Justin Acee on Christmas Eve. He proposed at his future mother-in-law’s home in Idaho, ensuring a member of the family would capture the moment on video.
Emma Heming Willis
Bruce didn’t think another great love was in the cards for him after he and Demi divorced, until he met Malta-born model Emma Heming at the gym of the trainer they happened to share in 2007.
“I spent the last 10 years single and, for the most part, unhappy,” the Die Hard star told W in 2009. “In a dark place. I never thought that being with someone else was the answer. I would say, ‘I’m alone, but I’m not lonely.’ But I was just kidding myself.”
After he started seeing Emma, who’s 23 years his junior, “on a day-to-day basis my life became much happier.”
They tied the knot March 21, 2009, on the beach at their home in Turks and Caicos. Along with Rumer, Scout and Tallulah, Demi was in attendance with then-husband Ashton Kutcher. (They split up in 2011 after six years of marriage.)
Marking 17 years of togetherness on Dec. 29, 2024, Emma—who’s been candid about the difficulties of her husband’s condition—posted about the “unconditional love” that fuels her.
“I feel blessed to know it, and it’s because of him,” she wrote. “I’d do it all over again and again in a heartbeat.”
After Bruce was diagnosed with aphasia and, months later, dementia, Emma cofounded the supplement company Make Time Wellness, with a focus on brain health and prenatal wellness, and launched the Make Time Podcast.
“It’s important to use our voices,” Emma told E! News in 2023, “because through action, awareness and conversation, that creates change.”
Mabel Willis
Emma and Bruce welcomed daughter Mabel Ray Willis on April 1, 2012, in L.A., but the family relocated to Bedford Hills, N.Y.
“The beauty of where we live is that it’s close to the city,” Emma told Elle Decor in 2017, “so we get the best of both worlds.”
But distance didn’t prevent the ladies of Willis-Moore from forming a tight bond: Scout, Tallulah and Demi were there to celebrate Mabel’s sixth-grade graduation in June 2024.
“We love her!!!” Tallulah commented on Instagram. “7th grade here we go!”
Evelyn Willis
After Evelyn Penn Willis arrived on May 5, 2014, Bruce expressed his satisfaction that he was now a father of five girls.
“We didn’t know what we were gonna have until the baby came out,” he told People a week later. “In general, I think women should be in charge of everything. Women are just much smarter than men.”
And he just went with the flow, according to Emma, who told Elle Decor that Bruce was “awesome” about “constantly sharing” his free time with their daughters.
“I think he’s been so used to having kids for so long,” she said, “and knowing his time really isn’t his own anymore, that he’s very generous with it.”
They considered themselves “traditional” in how they “put family first,” Emma explained. “We believe in raising our children with manners and poise, and we impress upon them the importance of learning and education. But we are also very free in allowing them to express themselves through whatever form or behavior that might take—within reason, of course. We don’t ever want our kids to feel entitled. So we make sure to strike a good balance as best as we know how.”
And while she’s been pretty frank with both Mabel and Evelyn about their dad’s condition, Emma is also focused on creating lots of happy memories, sharing videos from their recent girls’ trip to Paris and putting up Christmas decorations back home.
